THIS
Option A: Gentle / Connection-Based Response
Use this when the child feels discouraged.
How to do it:
✔
Normalize mistakes
✔
Offer reassurance
What to say:
✔
"It's okay not to get it right."
✔
"Trying matters."
Why it works:
Reducing pressure encourages engagement.
Option B: Trauma-Informed / Nervous System Support
Use this when fear feels overwhelming.
How to do it:
✔
Lower expectations temporarily
✔
Focus on safety
What to say:
✔
"You're safe to try."
✔
"I'm here."
Why it works:
Safety supports risk-taking and learning.
Option C: Calm Boundary + Skill-Building
Use this when avoidance becomes habitual.
How to do it:
✔
Encourage effort
✔
Break tasks into steps
What to say:
✔
"Let's try one small part."
✔
"We can fix mistakes."
Why it works:
Skill-building increases confidence over time.
