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Option A: Gentle / Connection-Based Response
Use this when the child is emotionally flooded.
How to do it:
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Stay close and calm
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Position yourself to keep everyone safe
What to say:
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"You're really upset."
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"I'm here with you."
Why it works:
Calm presence supports regulation and reduces escalation.
Option B: Trauma-Informed / Nervous System Support
Use this when kicking happens during intense dysregulation.
How to do it:
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Reduce stimulation
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Keep language minimal
What to say:
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"You're safe."
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"Breathe with me."
Why it works:
Grounding helps the body exit fight-or-flight.
Option C: Calm Boundary + Skill-Building
Use this when kicking becomes unsafe or repeated.
How to do it:
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Clearly block the behavior
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State the boundary
What to say:
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"I won't let you kick."
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"Feet are for keeping people safe."
Why it works:
Clear limits protect safety while teaching appropriate behavior.
