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Option A: Gentle / Connection-Based Response
Use this when testing is exploratory.
How to do it:
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Stay calm and consistent
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Acknowledge the need for independence
What to say:
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"You're figuring things out."
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"That's part of growing up."
Why it works:
Calm consistency reduces power struggles.
Option B: Trauma-Informed / Nervous System Support
Use this when boundary testing escalates emotionally.
How to do it:
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Lower emotional intensity
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Pause the interaction
What to say:
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"Let's slow this down."
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"We'll talk when we're calm."
Why it works:
Regulation prevents escalation.
Option C: Calm Boundary + Skill-Building
Use this when boundaries are repeatedly crossed.
How to do it:
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Restate expectations clearly
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Follow through consistently
What to say:
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"The boundary hasn't changed."
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"I expect you to follow it."
Why it works:
Consistency builds trust and accountability.
