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Option A: Gentle / Connection-Based Response
Use this when the child wants connection.
How to do it:
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Offer brief attention
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Acknowledge the need
What to say:
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"I see you."
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"I'll be with you soon."
Why it works:
Connection reduces escalation.
Option B: Trauma-Informed / Nervous System Support
Use this when attention-seeking is anxious.
How to do it:
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Reassure availability
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Provide predictability
What to say:
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"I'm not going anywhere."
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"You matter."
Why it works:
Security reduces urgency.
Option C: Calm Boundary + Skill-Building
Use this when behavior disrupts others.
How to do it:
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Set limits on behavior
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Redirect appropriately
What to say:
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"I can't respond to that."
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"Ask me this way."
Why it works:
Boundaries teach healthy communication.
